After finishing my last post the Spirit compelled me to share one of my early experiences with the power of understanding that comes in acknowledging the presence of God. It seems like forever ago that this happened but the freshness of it on my mind has not been dulled by the passing of time. It is basically one of those stories where you wrestle with the “why” of life and ultimately turn to God as a source of blame. It was amazing how God responded to me in that moment and it took me years after to understand the implications that it would have on my life further on up the road.
It was October 19, 1999. Three years prior on this date my best friend had passed away. This event tore through my life in several different ways. Naturally there was the pain and considerable anguish that comes with losing one so dear to your life. Yet there was also an odd calm that would follow his death. Upon his passing I had made myself this promise: I would refuse to blame God. Why I made this promise to myself I’m not really sure. At that time I wasn’t regularly attending any gathering with fellow Christians. I didn’t even really put that much stock in the ultimate authority or legitimacy of God. Yet for whatever reason this was the vow I made to myself in that trying moment. For nearly two years I had held to that promise but this day was very different. I’m not sure what had happened in my mind but for the first time in two years I had awoken to the urge to find a reason or even some small level of fairness in the passing of one of the most beloved people in my life. The irrepressible urge to demand answers from anywhere was intoxicating in the most negative kind of way. My whole day spiraled down a steady tube of bitterness. I finally hit bottom at the grave of my friend. In the years since his passing I would regularly visit his gravesite. Sometimes I would be nothing out of the ordinary but there were other times when I was nothing short of an emotional basket case. This time, however, I was something much worse. I was fiercely embittered and the source of my rage became the one who created everything. In short my razor of hate turned sharply on its edge and took aim directly at the only sensible source left to blame…God.
It was night in the graveyard. The air was cold and taunting. There I stood a complete mess. My emotions bubbled deep in the core of me and began a steady climb to the surface. The tears came first and were immediately followed by a feeble attempt to fight them back. The effort succeeded a little at first but the more my mind turned and the more the headstone glared back at me I began to crumble one little piece at a time. I felt all my natural defenses shudder at the seams. What followed after the fight with the tears was something I was completely unprepared for.
I closed my eyes and my mind had returned to my childhood home. I was in the playroom and my friend was there. We were playing in my toy box. We couldn’t have been any older than six. We were laughing and having the best of times. One of our mothers came into the room and snapped of photograph of this oh so Kodak moment. I still have that picture to this very day. It’s one of my favorites. Flash forward. There he and I are in my backyard. We must be at least thirteen by now. We’re playing catch out in the backyard. He always knew how to throw a pitch so much better than I. He was always more athletic. I could hardly keep up but I loved to play catch with him. He was the last person I ever did that with. No matter what such a thing will always remind me of him. Flash forward. I’m not sure how old we are but we’re in his kitchen. It’s late. We really shouldn’t still be up. If his mom or dad woke up right now we’d be in some serious trouble. Yet that didn’t matter much to us. We had been talking for hours about everything. It wasn’t your typical conversation between adolescents. That night we promised one another what we would do if one of us died before the other. I remember telling him that there’s no way I’d have to worry about what would happen if he went before I did because that just ain’t gonna happen. I said, “If either of us goes it will be me first and that’s for sure.” We promised each other anyway and swore to see it through no matter what. Flash forward. We’re in high school now. It’s football season. The team had just won. He was with his new girlfriend. They were perfect together. He told me once that she was the one. Everything seemed so right. Flash forward. It’s only weeks later from my last vision. It’s all a blur of quickly moving images. The sound of ambulances. The stiff smell of hospitals. The ceaselessly echoing words of doctors with “unfortunate” news. Holding my friends hand for the last time only to realize that it would be the first time in my life I ever told him I loved him. Regret. Weeping friends and family. A coffin. A grave with it’s freshly dug dirt waiting to be thrown over yet one more life. Then the memories moved faster than my mind could handle. The bitterness was reaching its peak. There was pandemonium in every corner of my mind. The world around went away. All my thoughts turned inward to try and kill the struggle within only to be thrust back out so that the fire could properly breathe. I think I turned round where I stood. Nothing was clear anymore. My heart was racing. And then in one swift moment…………….
The dam broke. I fell hopelessly to my knees. A pain twisted deep inside of me the likes of which I had never known. Tears freely flowed to ground beneath me. I put out one hand on the headstone to steady myself from falling completely over. I wanted to say something passionate and meaningful. I wanted to hurt God. I wanted Him to know what his created life did to those actually living in it. I wanted to call Him a bastard and worse. I wanted Him to fall in the worst way. I wanted him to know what the word loss really meant. You can’t know loss by looking it up in the dictionary. You have to experience it to know what it really means. I realize now how foolish and selfish all these things were to say. Yet in that moment reason was beyond my comprehension. I turned my eyes to the pristine night sky above me and weakly screamed out, “WHY!?” I kept my eyes fixated on the stars above waiting for some kind of answer. It was an answer that I never thought I would have received. At that very instant a shooting star reeled across the sky. I had never seen one until that night. Suddenly a series of things happened to me that I’ll never forget. The wind blew warmly around me even though the night had been rather cold. I felt unexplainable warmth around me. It was the kind of warmth you feel when someone holds you. I’m not sure what it was but it was there. Then there was calm. A kind of peace that comes only with resolution but I couldn’t identify what it was in me that had suddenly been resolved. All the wheels of angst turning inside of me seemed to grind to a halt. All of my previous emotions were replaced with something different. What I’ve come to realize is that on this night in an empty cemetery I felt the presence of God fill up every ounce of emptiness around me but not just around…inside of me as well. Somehow I knew that everything was going to be all right. Now I know that it was God telling me that my eyes do not yet see but His do. Because his eyes had seen me he had in turn found me. His arms were holding me and his heart had touched me in ways that could not yet identify.
I left something in the cemetery that night. I buried something. I put to rest that part of me that refused to trust God. From time to time that little piece of me resurrects itself to burden my life but ultimately it returns to the grounds where I left it. That night stands out in my mind as a testimony that God is not distant and frigidly averse to us. Instead, he’s busy rescuing us from ourselves even when we don’t realize we need rescue. That night in the cemetery was my first lesson in feeling the Holy Spirit. From death I was given a glimpse of a different kind of life. Though it would be many years before I felt this same thing again I realize now that it was only because I hadn’t yet learned how to look or feel. Yet God was patient and the best kind of teacher. Perhaps I’ll never know why the wheel turns as it does but I now understand that such understanding isn’t really important. It’s what’s behind the turning that matters most. What is behind the turning? I know only of one thing: God. If I know only this and nothing else in my life then I will not feel that life has been misspent because God will show me the rest at His discretion. In the end, it is only God that matters.
Yesterday's Oasis gathering in Middleport was a special one. The Lord relayed through Louie some very important reminders for us... that as we enjoy living our lives in relationship to Him our trust continues to grow, which means our faith begins to grow and as a result we begin to give Him more and more of ourselves. As we live our lives in constant practice of His Word, Works, and Worship we are continually putting ourselves in a place to KNOW Him better because we recognize our identity as His children.

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